"My Baby Just Doesn't Get It"

There are lots of reasons why a baby can't seem to get the hang of latching on and nursing well at first. While your baby learns how, you need to: 1) keep him fed, 2) keep your milk supply going, 3) keep in touch with breastfeeding specialists... and 4) keep the faith! Your baby will learn how. These babies did.

Emily just didn't get it. She would root, but she didn't seem to understand latching on. Like almost all non-nursing babies, she could suck just fine on a finger. Her mother worked on positioning, and began using a rental pump to make sure her milk supply would build whether or not Emily began nursing soon. She tried feeding Emily with an eyedropper, then with a feeding tube on her finger, but quickly decided to bottle-feed, using formula to supplement her still-low supply. Over the next few weeks, she tried different positions, a nipple shield, a feeding tube attached to a nipple shield, and finally just stopped trying for a week. "Look, Emily," father said to daughter, "The whole world sucks. There's no reason you can't." A little more time with the nipple shield, and Emily started nursing. It took her a bit longer to become fully competent, so her mother continued to pump and offer an evening bottle. By 6 weeks, the formula and the breast pump were gone.

Daniel just didn't get it. He would try and try to latch on, then give up in frustration. After just one visit from a lactation consultant, Daniel and his mom "got it together". It was a simple matter of positioning.

Timothy just didn't get it. His mother had "easy" nipples and more than enough milk, but Timothy couldn't stay latched on. His mother finger-fed him with an eyedropper for a month, and Timothy's skills gradually improved. But even though she could sometimes pump 10 oz at a sitting, this baby could latch on, suck and suck and suck, and not swallow a drop! After about 5 weeks, his mother began using a bottle. Timothy's nursing skills kept improving, and he began swallowing sometimes. By 7 weeks, Timothy was a pretty competent nurser most of the time. His mother kept pumping for an evening bottle for a few weeks, but then Timothy started refusing it. The boy who started out not knowing how to nurse ended up not liking bottles!

Lisa just didn't get it. Her mom kept her well-fed by using a rental pump and cup-feeding. It was a discouraging first week, with lots of spilled milk and the tedium of pumping, but by the end of the week, Lisa was an accomplished nursing baby.

Alex just didn't get it. He would fight and cry at the breast, and his mother's milk supply dropped really low. His mother finger-fed him with tubing, alternating time on her finger with offering the tubing at her breast. She used a hand pump, and supplemented her low supply with formula. By about 4 weeks, Alex would latch on some of the time. Suddenly, things began to click. His mother continued to use tubing at her breast to supplement him while her own supply increased. From the day he really began nursing, Alex sat in his mother's arms like a different baby - relaxed and content, as if he'd found heaven. Alex loved being a nursing baby.

Minda just didn't get it. Her mother had large, soft breasts, with nipples that didn't stand out at all. Minda's mom tried many positions, a nipple shield, finger-feeding, bottle-feeding, and by 5 weeks was ready to quit. She tried a feeding tube at the breast as a last resort, and it turned out to be the "latch on here" signal Minda had been looking for. It took another week of ups and downs before Minda nursed consistently and easily.

Laura just didn't get it. Her mother finally was able to get her to latch on by using a nipple shield. At first, she gave additional pumped milk in a bottle. But Laura's mom was soon able to maintain a full supply without pumping, even though Laura nursed with the shield. After 6 weeks of using the nipple shield and occasionally being offered the breast alone, Laura was able to nurse without the shield. (Caution: for some mothers, regular use of a nipple shield without pumping results in a lower and lower supply. Use a nipple shield only with guidance from a breastfeeding specialist.)

Casey just didn't get it. His mother's very flat nipples were hard for him to latch on to. She used a rental pump to soften her breast and make it easier for him to grasp. And she cup-fed him if a nursing didn't go well. As nursing drew her nipples out, she became sore, but by two weeks, nursing was going smoothly for both of them.

Brandon just didn't get it. He hadn't had any good nursings in the hospital, and couldn't latch on at all after they got home, because her breasts were engorged. She used a rental pump to soften her breasts, and, with some positioning help, Brandon latched on and nursed beautifully. Without the lactation consultant's help, and with breasts still very full, they had trouble again. But she kept pumping, and gave Brandon her milk with an eyedropper when he couldn't nurse. After a few days, that early engorgement was over and nursing was easy.

Shira just didn't get it. She would root, then make a face and push her mother's nipple away. After a week of trying, and offering pumped milk in a bottle, her mother began using a nipple shield. During the next week, Shira nursed with the nipple shield and usually enjoyed it, but had to be supplemented by bottle. Sometimes she refused the shield. Then her efficiency with the shield began to improve, and she began accepting her mother's bare breast sometimes, partway through a feeding. One morning, at about 2 weeks, she just "seemed different" to her mother. And she nursed well from then on.

Bruce just didn't get it. He couldn't seem to draw his mother's breast into his mouth and keep it there. After a few days he managed to nurse with a nipple shield, but he was supplemented with bottles of pumped milk as well. Day after day went by, and his mother wondered if she would ever be rid of the shield and bottles, but suddenly, in the bathroom, a day before his four week birthday, Bruce just started nursing. Just like that!

The things these babies' mothers had in common were a discouraging start, a lot of tears, determination, and help from a knowledgeable breastfeeding specialist. Each pair followed a different path to breastfeeding. Some babies caught on quickly, some needed long and frustrating weeks. But all these babies began to enjoy breastfeeding, and went on to be normal, happy nursing babies. And all their mothers say it was worth the wait.

©1997 Diane Wiessinger 136 Ellis Hollow Creek Road Ithaca, NY 14850


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